What are the signs of a man truly loving a woman? Many, but in my experience, these are the most crucial and they are important to recognize for women, in order to avoid unavailable or abusive relationships.
1)Does he care about your health? This is crucial, especially if there is a serious health issue. Even if the issue comes up during a phase of fighting or even temporary separation, it is a basic principle in any human relationship that ego issues go aside and any person who has the least caring for you, also cares about your health. Even if it is only about asking how you are and if you need any help. If he chooses silent revenge or petty egoism during a health issue, forget it.
2)You cannot be replaced by other people/friends/activities etc. You are a unique individual and in any healthy relationship, you deserve to be wanted to spend time with. Any excuses that other people/activities take away that time from you, are just that: excuses. It signifies something is wrong.
3)Does he wish to check in with you regularly? Does he want to share his day with you at the end of the day? This does not come as a sign of obligation or pressure, but in a healthy relationship it is a sign of an organic need to know about each other.
4)If he said or did something that hurt or upset you, does he care about your feelings? He may not agree with the way you see it, but does he at least care about the fact that you are upset? Rejecting your feelings with sarcasm of the type “you sensitive little thing…” is not acceptable. In any human relationship, if we are in our right mind, we do care about any negative effect our words and actions have on others. This does not mean that we go into a guilt trip or allow ourselves to be manipulated but there is a basic sense of caring- and we know when we crossed the boundary. If this caring and awareness is lacking, then something is wrong.
5)Does he commit quality time to be with you or is his occupation with you done hastily, when it is convenient for him, just in order to ‘have’ you? Are you a priority or a convenience?
6) Does he let long periods of silence and withdrawal during conflict? Is this an ego punishment? How does he handle conflict?
7) Is he delighted to see you? Delight is the key word here. The essence of a relationship is to delight in each other. If his reaction when he sees you is lukewarm or one of boredom, think about if you deserve something better….
